children are resilient

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Again, it would be so much easier just to agree with you, but...

empathy also demands that I understand that something unhealthy existed in the marriage if one partner is chosing to leave the marriage. It may be only that they needed to grow and felt they couldn't do it in the marriage anymore. It's hard to be specific and empathetic about a general case

I do know that holding onto anger and resentment for your spouse is making your children suffer too, and they are not learning how to cope with adversity well from you if that is your focus.