IF you don't want to save the marriage then by all means go and expose to your heart's content. Take out a full page ad in the local newspaper. Be as vindictive as possible.
BUT if the intent is to save the marriage, and to be able to forgive the affair and move forward, sometimes exposing isn't the right way.
Oh please. This is insulting. Exposure is a strategy that's well-researched, and -- done the right way -- IS done very clearly with the intent of trying to save the marriage!
Does it always work?
Nope.
Does it often cause more anger in the short run, and more wounds that will have to heal going forward, if you are to reconcile?
Yep.
But it's a perfectly acceptable technique, which has worked in tens of thousands of marriages.
How about we just say "Reasonable people disagree about this, and these are some of the pitfalls that I see, based on my experience", and leave it at that? To paint the broad brush that those of us who advocate this AREN'T trying to save the marriage, is insulting, BND.
