You will hear me say this alot but I believe the LBS has to determine their own tolerance level for communication.
And believe me it will ebb and flow as you go through this.
Your pain will guide you in the right direction.
In this case I agree with Pup. If you let yourself listen to all his emotional outpouring right now I think you become attached more when you need to detach more.
Nothing wrong with setting boundaries to protect yourself and this might be a good one.
I also like the way Puppy phrased it. You are not punishing H it is for you and your emotional health.
Just be prepared for the backlash. He may say something like "I knew I couldn't count on you" or something equally guilt ridden.
YOU MUST NOT BEND TO THIS
Once you set the boundary remember what it is for
YOU
Not good or bad reaction from H.
If you do not enforce the boundary then you are a paper tiger. He will not respect your boundaries.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
