I am reading Antonia thread right now over there. The exposing I agree does not work, however Puppy and Allen are giving her good advice as far as boundary setting and enforcement of those boundaries. Allen is very strict with that I see. I wonder if the LBS is ready for all of this so early in the crisis. But I guess in theory there is nothing wrong with having a no affair boundary. The NC rule is also very good.
I guess my question to you BND was there anything that you could have done to shorten his crisis? Do you feel that you made it longer? I guess that is what I see as wrong with the exposure. Penalty time in the tunnel. I do not believe you can shorten the crisis. Exposure will not work for that.
I will be interested who posts here and what they say.
