I have come home to an emptied house....What next?

[Gynandtonix]

I am protected in that I know what she can and can't do.

I am aware of my rights - especially with the kids.

Oh she has made it quite clear of her intentions, and I am under no illusions.

But in what she said last night, and more so, how she said it, seemed a more than a little false and desperate.
As I said, it smacked of the LRT being used against me.

I see no sign of her new R abating at all.
In fact, it will only push them together more.

What I want to know is , what are the most common reactions after D has been filed?
Anger?
Retraction?

She is under no illusions that I am moving on.
This has angered her.
It feels that she is lashing out against my distancing myself from her.

Is this a sign she is accepting that I am moving on?
Or is it a test, in that if she mentions the big D word, that I will fold like a house of cards and pine for her return?

What do they think about when they do this?

Has anyone ever experienced this and found it to be a good thing between each other?

Regards,
Gyn.

Ps This quote is even more relevant now....

This is an earlier posting from Gucci Loafer;

Quote,

Wrong guys.. Wrong..

It is WHEN the WAW begins to FEEL (notice the word FEEL or FEELINGS) that the BS may not only have let go, but that they MAY (notice the word may) have now lost the BS for good...

The betrayed spouse has their best chance when the wayward stops thinking "how do I get out of this" to..

"did I go too far? what have I done? maybe I have made a mistake"....

Those thoughts CAN NOT enter the WS's mind UNTIL they start to ponder that they may have lost the betrayed spouse.

As long as the WS still thinks you want them back it doesn't matter how much of GAL you do. Part of the GAL that is so important is the part where the WS WONDERS if you are emotionally finished.. finito.. done.. The only way to do that is with NO PRESSURE. NO PURSUIT. NONE.


There are numerous examples of men and women on this site that admit they have gotten a life, but still haven't shown or convinced the WS that maybe, just maybe they have lost you for good. THAT is the key of GAL that opens the door to reconcile. (which is the biggest key the BS doesn't do.)

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