Doubt thou, the Starres are fire, Doubt, that the Sunne doth moue: Doubt Truth to be a Lier, But neuer Doubt, I loue.
from Hamlet Act 2 scene 2, as it appears in the 1623 First Folio. In modern form:
Doubt thou the stars are fire, Doubt that the sun doth move, Doubt truth to be a liar, But never doubt I love.
(Arden Shakespeare, 1982)
I have court tomorrow regarding the divorce. My W is going to come out hard trying to get the current custody schedule changed. I've prepared as best I can. I'll update later.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Two hours in the courtroom waiting, 5 minutes before the Judge. $500 to my lawyer and another court date on Oct 12. lol
My W's lawyer entered a motion and my lawyer just got it while we were standing there. We have 3 weeks to respond to it. I haven't seen it yet and my lawyer obviously didn't get a chance to read it.
He said he glanced over it quickly and she's basically asking for an Order of Protection...I said, "Are you kidding me?" "He said it won't look good for her in the eyes of the court."
She is really trying to get custody of the kids. I'll probably get a copy of the motion tomorrow so it will be interesting to read what it says.
She just dropped her attempt at an OP in family court two weeks ago. This is getting ridiculous. I imagine she's looking to take control of the house and the kids and get me to give her my money. It's really all she's been trying to do for the past year and a half.
I'm tired and worn out. Didn't sleep a wink last night but felt fine this morning. I put together a whole package for my lawyer. I wrote down all of her objections about the current schedule and did point by point rebuttals to them. Made a copy of my S's progress report and report card from last year and noted how the teaching assistant, my S's psychiatrist and his therapist has said he's doing well. Even cut down his meds a lot.
So the saga continues.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Found an email with legal advice. First line, "You don't know how badly I wanted to text you but I figured this would be safer". Third line in - "I love you so much that watching you go through this is hurtful." (using hurtful that way is pretty stupid - he wants to see hurtful? lol. He'll get plenty of that from her)
Email references himself to be a lawyer.
Put 2 and 2 together and it's who I thought it might be. A guy she went to HS with. He chased her around then and she had told me he was always in love with her. They stayed in touch during our marriage and she used to make fun of the emails he would send once in a while. I believe she used to refer to him as a dork. Always told me he had 'no shot'.
I'm about 99.9% sure I've tagged the right person. The email was sent from one of her accounts to another one of her accounts so it only had her name in the to and from spots. It also didn't have any salutation.
Deeper investigation has begun. Adultery isn't a big thing as far as a D is concerned. But, having a paramour and bringing the kids around them is frowned upon by the courts and psychologists that do the analysis.
It stung a bit when I saw that email (was in a box she left at the house) and was a bit sad. Although it did may things make more sense and it was something I've had a gut feeling about for a while now.
I need more concrete evidence to present to the court. She has brought our children around him about 3 times or so, and the last time was a 4 day overnight at his parents' house with his parents, sister, and sister's D there. She also went by herself to meet him about 4 hours drive on the 4th of July weekend when I had my kids in Colorado. They actually are the ones who told me she was going to meet him. How sad is she?
I read the motion her lawyer put in yesterday. She's basically looking for an order of protection for me to stay away from the house, her to take full custody of our children, me to pay child support and maintenance to her. All the cr@p in there is the same BS she put in the two OP's she tried to get as well as the D papers.
She just dropped an attempt at the OP two weeks ago and has now sought it again in D court. My lawyer commented yesterday it won't sit well with the court. I hope he's right.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
I keep telling myself the puzzle will fit together and all of this will make sense.
It's what I've always believed and what I've always experienced. It's just hard sometimes to find comfort in it when I'm right in the dead middle of it.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
And to quote the signature of one of the many people I have deep respect for on these boards - Coach
"Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."
I will prevail in the end. I have an undying faith truth will stand above all else. I've gone all in on this philosophy for many, many years and so far it has not steered me to a place I wasn't supposed to be.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Put 2 and 2 together and it's who I thought it might be. A guy she went to HS with. He chased her around then and she had told me he was always in love with her. They stayed in touch during our marriage and she used to make fun of the emails he would send once in a while. I believe she used to refer to him as a dork. Always told me he had 'no shot'.
So what did we learn from this before you are ready to move forward?
Ex-boyfriends/ex-husbands, etc contacting your wife is NOT good. Why did she let this continue, why did you not speak up?
You have discovered a new boundary that is important in a Marriage if you want to stay married.
See how much smarter you are going to be after going through all of this?
Last edited by TimeHeals; 09/09/1001:28 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Put 2 and 2 together and it's who I thought it might be. A guy she went to HS with. He chased her around then and she had told me he was always in love with her. They stayed in touch during our marriage and she used to make fun of the emails he would send once in a while. I believe she used to refer to him as a dork. Always told me he had 'no shot'.
So what did we learn from this before you are ready to move forward?
Ex-boyfriends/ex-husbands, etc contacting your wife is NOT good. Why did she let this continue, why did you not speak up?
You have discovered a new boundary that is important in a Marriage if you want to stay married.
See how much smarter you are going to be after going through all of this?
Hah! I've said the same thing to my wife throughout our marriage and she's always said it's because I'm insecure and jealous. She thinks there's nothing wrong with men and women having close friendships...
