Yesterday was a good day. I woke S up by singing to him while I videoed him and he did NOT like that, but it will make a funny memory. I gave him the card from me and a stuffed Luigi.
After work H came over around 4:30. H gave him a shirt I had asked him to buy and a card. The gift he got was still being shipped and actually came to his parents house yesterday, but he didn't stop at home. In the card, was a picture of the new iPod touch. He bought one for S and I and one for himself (so that is where all his money is going...I wonder if OW got one too). He asked if that was too much. I said no. He said he wanted to get one for S and I because the new iPod Touch has video chat on it so S may be more willing to talk to H if he can see him versus talking on the phone. I said that is a good reason and I didn't fight him at all. The rest of the night went well. S picked McDonald's to go out to eat and after wanted to play Wii with daddy so they played a bit and that was it.
A few strange things... 1. As always H was very "helpful". I stopped at Target on the way to McDonald's to get a shirt for Friday's Spirit Day and he wanted to pay (he even got mad and said "what is your problem" when I wouldn't let him), but he hasn't given me the child support check for September. I didn't bring it up yesterday since it was S's b-day, but I will tomorrow when H picks up because I will also give him the dentist bill. We agreed since it is cheaper to not put S on dental insurance right now that we would split the bills in half. It isn't much, but still.
2. Just before H left, I got super dizzy. I haven't been this bad since last year. I asked H if he felt ok (wondering if there was something wrong with the food at McD). He said he was fine and asked why. I told him I was extremely dizzy and he proceeded to ask if he could do anything and even went to a store to get a humidifier thinking it was from my sinuses being stuffed. I believe it is just hormones because I decided to stop taking the pill (saving $10 every 4 wks and I don't need it) and so my body is just getting used to not having it.
3. My car stalled with H in it and he said how his dad also heard that the vibe had been recalled for engine problems causing it to stall. H said he would call the dealer and find out what to do, but I said I would take care of it. It is my car, but more of him trying to do stuff for me. He even offered to have me use his car until I get mine fixed, but I said that was ok and I would be fine.
4. H's brother (the BIL I get along with) text me while we were out to eat to see S yesterday and drop of his gift. I said we were out to eat and he said he was busy later at night so I said just do it tomorrow (today). H asked what was up because I was texting and I told him. He got really jealous. I said that BIL and I had text last weekend because BIL wanted suggestions on gifts. Then he wanted to see S. I said since H doesn't let S play with BIL on teh weekends and because BIL doesn't like H so he doesn't want to be around when H is around, BIL wants to hang out with S a bit and also give him his gift. I am perfectly fine with that, but now H is asking to stop by today to give S his present when he will see S tomorrow and Saturday. Majorly jealous...oh well.
I am still dizzy a bit, but I think that will go once that time of the month hits and is over. I also need to start eating more dairy because i know that helped before I was on the pill. My cold/allergies have subsided so that is good.
I am a little worried about talking to H about the child support, but something I have to do or go to the L and force the issue. He may not get paid now until tomorrow so I am hoping that is why he hasn't paid yet.
Finally, I got the best compliment yesterday. The computer tech told me how I look a lot happier. I said thank you. She just found out about everything (she also knows my in-laws) last week and she just told me how this year I seem a lot happier than ever before. That once again lets me know that I am doing the right thing for me. I am doing much better. S is also thriving. He is used to this new arrangement and honestly only asks for H the Tuesday or Wednesday before it is his weekend. Once S really understands time, he won't have any problems at all. H and I work well together so that is good too.
Overall, things are great in my life. I just wish things would go faster with the D so that could be done ASAP, but it will happen soon enough.
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