Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

Hi Hope4luv: hugs to you...That is the one things that is SO hard to realize; that it is ABUSE because we certainly "don't want to" see them that way. My husband has NOT taken any responsibility for his past abuse; he still rages and that is why I will not even talk to him; to be confronted with his unresolved anger is aimed toward me; he needs a counselor.(and has always accused ME of not taking responsibility for my behavior; PROJECTION runs rampant; what he calls me; he actually is.)

LACK OF HUMILITY is another symptom of abusive behavior; it seems that LBS may not recognize that they are lacking if they are the "religious abuse" sort of man "who rules his household" with an iron fist...mine tried. I left. (not quite that simple but I think it gets the point across)...