Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[LSG]

IDU,

I am sorry I did not respond to you soon. I have been busy lately as you can imagine. I have been spending less time here. I am just a little tired these days.

Thank you so much for the "congratulations." It does feel good to have a job. I go to look at a nice apartment that will accept cats for my kids. They are excited if I get it. I think it will be nice for them. I like the place. It is big and spacious.

The pain has not been so strong on some days lately with her gone. I have my own time, and I do not feel that she is controlling my every move. I no longer sleep with my private information. I come and go without worrying about her CB. I have some peace for me.

I still have a long road ahead, but I am going to be "OK."

I appreciate your support. It is very comforting to have a friend like you. I hope we can sometime meet for a beer or something. I have not drank in 10 month, so just smelling beer with probably get me drunk. J/K.

Have a great day tomorrow!

[LSG]

PH,

It has been a good start of the week so far. I had a good day at work. I have to adjust. I think about STBXW a little, but I try to keep busy. I am learning a lot. The people are really nice to me, and I find that I am fitting in real well. It is a peaceful and calm atmosphere to be in. I will alternate Saturday when she has the kids, and I will have one day off during the week to spend time with them every other week.

It is really good for my life that job.

I am doing better at having PMA.

[LSG]

Coach,

Thank you so much for the "congratulations." I have not taken care of myself this good in a long time. I feel good. I am a little tired. I do eat now food that I buy with my support from W. I do need to work on a better diet for me and the kids once I know my budget a little better. I have had to be very frugal for a little while. It will take some time to take control of my life completely, but I have my life headed in the right direction for the first time in a long time.

I have my "ups" and "downs", but I am enjoying the "ups."

Thank you so much for always keeping me pointed in the right direction.

What you have to say means alot to me.

I hope your life always brings you joy and happiness.

[LSG]

Journaling (Tuesday, September 7, 2010):

W has been over a few times when it is my time with the kids. I am a little annoyed by it, but the kids need her some now. She had to drop some stuff off for them last night, and the kids wanted some of her food. She came in and ate. Tonight she had to drop somethings off again, and she spent time with the kids for an hour. I finally told the kids that mommy has to go, and they need to get ready. I think I need to have more boundaries. I just do not want to make it too hard for the kids.

I was glad when she left. She tried to TM me today, but I do not have TM. She has called about fours times today. She said the kids need this or what are we doing about the car for tomorrow. She calls more now before she move out. I also see her more too.

I just don't get it why she will not just leave me alone. I just want to live my life, and she can live hers. That is what she wanted, right.

The kids are with her for the next couple of days, and I will not interfere with her time.

The kids will tell me about their first day of school, and it will be it. I would have them do it for her too.

I am excited about work tomorrow. It will be fun.

[pinhead]

LSG,

I'm so happy you're finally getting out of limbo. It sounds like you're starting to breath again. It's been a long, long, 4 months to get to this place. Each day will get better, you'll gain more confidence, and the pain you feel when thinking about her will slowly go away.

Remember two things; you're the biggest role model in the life of your children, and they'll be so much happier as they see you starting to grow!

And do the right thing. You're not a doormat. I see your self-esteem and confidence building. And the best thing is that every little success you have will make you that much more confident.

God be with you

[CityGirl]

Good luck with the job!

I know you want to make this easier on your children and the way to do that is setting firm boundaries.

[Espr444]

Hey LSG,
Best of luck with your job!! You are doing great & great things are ahead of you. Good job taking care of yourself & just like me the best time is with you kids.

I pick up my S after school and have him for the night. One final down & one more to go then a short break; & then I hope to get on her some more. Anyway talk to ya later back to work.

[LSG]

PH,

The past couple of days have been better for me. I know it will take along time to fully move past the last year and what I have experienced. I continue to move forward and on. Occassionally I do regress, but it is not as far as in past times.

I am growing, and I am glad for that. It is a process that goes slower than I had hoped, but it is going, so I am very thankful for that.

I do not put up with CB from her anymore, and I call her on it now. I am no longer the doormat.

I am more confident, and my successes are happening more frequently and with better result.

I am so happy to have you post to me.

Have great night, and keep positive for yourself.

[LSG]

CG,

Thank you so much for the best wishes on my job. It is going great, and the people are very nice. I will do great at it. I have learned so much so far.

I am going to going have firmer boundaries. I called the cell phone that I gave to my D to find out how her day at school was. They did not call me. I did not expect W to do the right thing for me or them. I am very irritated, but I will talk to them about it tomorrow.

Great advice, and I really appreciate it.

Thank you for your help and keeping me on my toes so much!

[LSG]

Hope147,

Your posts to me help me to keep positive and help me to be happy with the direction I have taken in my life.

You are so right that the best time is with the kids, and I am glad that you are enjoying spending time with your S. He is enjoying spending time with you too.

Talk to you more later.

Thank you for kind words!