Found an email with legal advice. First line, "You don't know how badly I wanted to text you but I figured this would be safer". Third line in - "I love you so much that watching you go through this is hurtful." (using hurtful that way is pretty stupid - he wants to see hurtful? lol. He'll get plenty of that from her)
Email references himself to be a lawyer.
Put 2 and 2 together and it's who I thought it might be. A guy she went to HS with. He chased her around then and she had told me he was always in love with her. They stayed in touch during our marriage and she used to make fun of the emails he would send once in a while. I believe she used to refer to him as a dork. Always told me he had 'no shot'.
I'm about 99.9% sure I've tagged the right person. The email was sent from one of her accounts to another one of her accounts so it only had her name in the to and from spots. It also didn't have any salutation.
Deeper investigation has begun. Adultery isn't a big thing as far as a D is concerned. But, having a paramour and bringing the kids around them is frowned upon by the courts and psychologists that do the analysis.
It stung a bit when I saw that email (was in a box she left at the house) and was a bit sad. Although it did may things make more sense and it was something I've had a gut feeling about for a while now.
I need more concrete evidence to present to the court. She has brought our children around him about 3 times or so, and the last time was a 4 day overnight at his parents' house with his parents, sister, and sister's D there. She also went by herself to meet him about 4 hours drive on the 4th of July weekend when I had my kids in Colorado. They actually are the ones who told me she was going to meet him. How sad is she?
I read the motion her lawyer put in yesterday. She's basically looking for an order of protection for me to stay away from the house, her to take full custody of our children, me to pay child support and maintenance to her. All the cr@p in there is the same BS she put in the two OP's she tried to get as well as the D papers.
She just dropped an attempt at the OP two weeks ago and has now sought it again in D court. My lawyer commented yesterday it won't sit well with the court. I hope he's right.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
