R2C, I have read the four agreements, but it was a long time ago. I should reread it, but it is probably lost somewhere in the house I own that I am no longer welcome in. Maybe I'll get another copy.
I didn't think I was making an assumption. I thought W would want to do what the mediator suggested because "it is what is best for the kids", except in her mind. I talked to L today and we have to wait for the mediator's report and then W's attorney has to submit a proposal to us that we all have to sign. I won't sign it unless it stipulates that child support is to be based on equal shared placement. This may take a few weeks. I'm now debating scrapping the agreement and just going for actual equal shared placement. Then I will get CS equal shared placement too. F W.
Even if we get the CS settled, there is still alimony to worry about and that doesn't look pretty either. Hopefully the judge will help me out here. My atty said that since he is a dad himself, he tends to side with the dad's, slightly.
As long as I don't have to pay W more than $30k in CS and Alimony, I should be able to qualify for a refi and hopefully get her out of the house. That assumes that an appraisal comes in a bit higher than the estimate I just got. Not sure that is likely either. May just have to sell the place and start over. Unfortunately, there isn't likely to be enough proceeds to get a good mortgage on a nicer house. Will have to downgrade
substantially. Maybe I just continue to rent for a while and try to save some money for a down payment.
Found out tonight that the reason W was in bed so late on Sat AM is because she was out drinking all night in Lake Geneva since she didn't have the kids. Must have gotten that first ridiculous support check. She had sushi in the fridge today too. Must be nice to have all that money. I hate the b!tch. Gravy train will run out eventually.
Have the kids tonight, but they are in bed now. Had the old neighbors and their kids over for a cook-out. That was nice. I'm here for a week and have them for dinner. Was across the street for nearly 4 years and we never had them over for dinner. Nice.
Mentioned this on AG's thread, but I am going to Amsterdam in a couple of weeks and am thinking seriously about buying a sandwich there. It's been a long time.
I am getting discouraged about this situation and it is hard to project happy when everything is looking downhill for quite a while. I used to have sex on a regular basis and was very comfortable monetarily. Now I have neither. Life sucks.
