I think a lot of this is unrealistic expectations on their part. I think that is part of my W's problem too. It just didn't turn out like I expected it to. They have a fairy tale planned out in their mind from when they were young and when their life doesn't turn out as planned, they melt down. I have read about this in some relationship books.
I don't believe they are ever going to find thier fairy tale, while we are left to move on and pick-up the pieces. We will have good lives again, eventually, because we are grounded in reality and choose to enjoy life as we have it. Not because it is better than theirs, but because we just appreciate that which we have.
Sorry you are all here with me. This is just going to be one of life's down periods for us, but it's duration is limited and we have much upside potential. This too shall pass.
