I am on the fence regarding the b-day acknowledgement. I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to approve of her actions. You are right that she has been taught to internalize her negative feelings because of how her parents over reacted when her and her sister were upset. However, I should have not been such a insensitive cad in how I dealt with the A.
My W did what she thought she needed to do to survive. The issue that I have was that I knew we had problems and mostly due to me, but I never thought that we would be in this situation and her not communicating to me.
I don't think I am trying to control the sitch, but maybe I am. Though I am getting better with each passing day the silence was driving me crazy. I understand that she needs time and space and that is what I trying to give her.
I am fully committed to this M. My W is a wonderful woman and I would do anything for her. So I am committed, but I do admit that there are times when I question myself if this is worth it? I know GAL is and addressing issues that were the root cause of my sitch are.
I think it is normal to go through the cycle of emotions. Today was not necessarily a good day for me. I read a lot of posts were fellow posters were anguishing over their sitch and I think it affected me. I do appreciate your view point and how you can read through my sitch. It really clears the fog that I am in. I hope one day to be able to pay forward.
