Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[Butterfly1]

Whether you're a WAS or LBS - abusive mates will blame you entirely. That's what they do to not own their part. It justifies their behavior. It paints them as the victim.

I'm getting out of an abusive relaionship too. Do not listen to what they say - it's all meant to hurt and deny responsibility. It means nothing and certainly is not the full truth.