I also think to the Ml'er we represent truth and the truth would shatter them.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
remember - at least this is what i have been thinking. they do not know that through this YOU have grown and changed. you have gotten to a stage of not reacting - or trying. You are living.
I think they get confused even in their confusion. When they poke out and are nice - i DO think it is sincere. BUT they are so stinkin selfish that i think the underlying motive is really selfish! Meaning --- they are nice to u because it works for them.
I am very glad he did something for your little one.. and for your older daughter.
live life with no expectations. (not even talking about reconciliation.. i am just talking about them) live the way you know works best for YOU. he is being nice "for now" .. if it continues FANTASTIC... if not.. oh well.
saves your heart and your mind. lol
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I expect nothing from my ex. His "niceness" is very suspicious. Or maybe I just don't trust anymore. Regardless, He no longer rocks my world. I like it that way.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Does any one find that on occassion your children start treating you like your mid lifer?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Multiple reasons why, one involving my ex not adequately supervising my 5 year-old. I miss him terribly, but he is not anything like what he use to be.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Can you expand on that. My 16 year-old is trying hard to negatively get my attention with similar behaviors of ex. Now I know, she is a teenager, but it appears to be a little bit more than that. Lots of button pushing, especially bringing up other woman.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
first question - have you been able to have her in counseling? my kida and i have gone together to learn to communicate better. and they have gone seperately. i am sure we (the lbs) dont do everything right... and they have so much to deal with ya know?
my thoughts are flying all over. she could be pushing BECAUSE she is a teen. just angry -- you know? and you are "safe". it isn't fair but it is the truth.
email me - we can talk a little more openly... she is probably confused, angry .. frustrated... and going through normal teen stuff. his life probably seem so fun -- your hard. (you are responsible, pay your bills, take care of your kids. his play play play and even ow probably SEEMS like more fun.)
one thing that my daughter and i have started (and this is for real) is keeping track of our "schedule" yep.. that one. It seems to bring to light some of those more emotional/heated weeks.
anyways.. email me friend. I AM HERE FOR YOU!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Cagz, Could you email first, I accidently deleted all my email addresses.?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
