This ALL has to do with her FEELINGS. She does NOT feel strong enough feelings for you. It has nothing to do with guilt. Guilt is the excuse. The reality is her feelings.
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WHEN a woman has the right feelings for you she will help you move mountains, rob banks with you and follow you to the end of the earth.
Sure seemed like her feelings were very strong back then. She was all over me, calling me all the time, always wanted to be with me, was willing to walk into the unknown of my social group. It was HER insecurity that led to those comments by her. She wanted to impress me, wanted me to feel good being with her, and when my friend said that, it seemed to cause her to doubt herself, and she looked to me for something, and I wasn't sure what to do.
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You really don't need this woman. You should be out having the time of your life. You should be done posting on this site. You just don't seem to get it. You are heading on close to TWO YEARS on this site man.. Come on.. Man up. Get with the progam.. Enough is enough.. This isn't rocket science. She doesn't have the right feelings for you and NEVER will until YOU let her feel that you are done and it is over and now SHE can't have it back because it is YOU that doesn't want it... Wise up here.
No, I don't need her. I've been living my life for almost two years without her. I have a very active social life, I do a great job taking care of the kids. I stay on this site because I appreciate the advice of folks here. Unfortunately, because of my kids, I have to see my W all the time, keeping that relationship on some sort of life support. I journal what's happening for my own benefit. I've had periods when my interest moved to someone else, but they didn't pan out. Trust me, if and when I meet the right woman, I'll be done and not look back.
You are right, when she thought she lost me, that's when she really came after me. Very hard for me to make a game of it when my kids latched onto that with all they had, and hoped Mom and Dad were getting back together. They seem to have more influence on me than they do on her. Fact of life.
As for two years on this site, as long as I'm learning and growing, I have no problem with it. I'm realizing more and more how incredibly poor my marriage was, and how far I need to get before I'm in the right place to have a good marriage. If that takes two or more years, that's ok with me.
