Well first of all, have you seen a C about your kids? Right now your W is emotionally abusing them by saying how much she misses them and then leaving. Right there it sets them up for abandonment issues. Early on I had gone over this with my C.
Also, I don't recall seeing if you had told your W to not have the OM around your kids. True you can't "control" what she does, but in the eyes of the kids, imagine what they are seeing through their eyes. They see mom going off with another man and dad being okay with it. I'm sure that's extremely simplified but it's true.
Did you ever confront the guy and tell him to back off away from your kids? Doing the no contact thing is okay to a certain degree but there are times when you need to re-assert yourself as a man and take charge of what's yours. Which in this case is the kids.
If you aren't going to do that, then you might as well walk up to the L, get her served and sue the pants off of your W and the OM. I mean what else would you be waiting for? Another man is in bed with your W. It's your family.
But again, that's just my .02
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
