Are you kidding. That's still my theme song. The girls where I work looked up the words for me. And it's good to laugh, I just wish I felt that way inside. Wish I could email it to H.
Taking all the good advice. I haven't heard anymore, but I'm not responding. I'm still tempted to forward some of her emails to my fil, when she claimed he shared my emails to him for a laugh. I know that's a lie. I don't talk to my FIL about my husband and our sitch. It wouldn't be fair at all.
I won't. Taking the high road. That's me. Queen Victoria. Queen Elizabeth I, the virgin queen.
In your state, is there a law where one can prosecute/sue OW for loss of [can't think of the word right now, but it implies loss of income, affection from H, etc.]? If so, this is just the situation (and the OW), that one needs to do it, if it came down to actual divorce.
Also, if you sold the house, would your H get part of the profit? Surely, if he does, then he needs to pay toward the mortgage, air-conditioner, and so forth. In other words, the upkeep of the house. It would be in his interest to pay the mortgage, and whatever else that can be regarded as upkeep.
Otherwise, sounds like you are doing lots of GAL activities. Keep that up.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Thanks for visiting Being Me. Yes, there is a law to sue for alienation of affections. Don't know that it would prove anything. Remember, I've already talked to the Inspector General about losing her job. That would be the icing on the cake to me.
My H's aunt, who was listing our house, just called and wonder of wonders, my H returned the listing signed. It took him a month, but he did it. He'd said he was going to insist we have it auctioned off. Wonder what changed his mind?
Thanks, I will look into that law, but I've never heard of anyone actually doing it in Arkansas. Worth a look.
Hi Punkin, see that you are keeping low profile with your H & OW....that's good. I truly believe that removing yourself from the line of fire is the best approach....to declare war only sends MLC sufferers running faster and farther from us.
Keep you cool and let them fall on their face all on their own
BTW - I have heard about the "alienation of affection". That's a law suit you can bring against the OW for "stealing" your H. It's usually done at the same time as divorce. I've heard of cases where the betrayed spouse won and there was a monetary judgment against the OP....the question is would you be able to collect....does she have any money? Anyway, not sure if it's doable in Arkansas....it's not where I am.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Opinions please. As I said above, H finally signed papers to sell the house after saying he wouldn't. Do I say Thank You, or let it slide? I still haven't hit him up for the taxes.
Never mind. I know the answer to this one. Stay Dark. No unnecessary contact. Put the tax bill in the mail.
Last edited by punkin; 09/08/1011:56 PM. Reason: I'm a doof
Never mind. I know the answer to this one. Stay Dark. No unnecessary contact. Put the tax bill in the mail.
Exactly!
Think about what he would expect you to do, then do the opposite. My money is on "do and say nothing about it."
I only thought about the "alienation of affection" because of the emails she has been sending, i.e. the "liar" one, etc. That could be "defamation of character". I just feel that one should not allow someone to walk all over you, and not do something about it, especially if it's against the law. Anyway, I guess discuss with your L. Once left in the hands of the L, let it go. OW isn't worth thinking about, really. Let the law deal with her.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I am staying low. I have 70 days til my court date. That's 70 days between me and a divorce I do not want. I so don't want to aggravate the situation, I've considered not asking about the taxes, just pay them myself.
In my heart of hearts, I wish he would come up with a reason to postpone, but I can't believe he will with her pushing so hard.
Just taking one day at a time, like all of us here. Hoping and praying. My prayers tonight include Eric, with his L date tomorrow. Of course, my prayers include us all anyway. Heard of another couple locally who split up over an OW and have gotten back together, even had another child together. The Lord works in mysterious ways.
