I think you may be taking the "no contact" thing a little too far. I mean when you hang back and duck out when you follow your daughters, it sounds like you're running away and hiding. You're not showing confidence
As my wife is staying in her parents basement, I would make sure the girls head to the back of the house where the suit is. The girls have told me this is where they should go at drop off and not to go to the front door. A quick text we are arriving to W and drop off. The girls are always eager to go see mom.
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You're not showing confidence
Polite is what I am trying to portray. We have everything all sorted out each and every week thru e-mails. There are no questions to be answered during pick up and drop off’s …non. The day I confronted W about OM co worker she said yes, then W threw out “we never talk” I said there is nothing we need to talk about if it doesn’t pertain to the kids. She was involved with OM before she moved out and the separation was final.
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You don't necessarily need to talk to your W, but it also sounds as if you haven't put your foot down in terms of any boundaries.
Please elaborate .. “help needed” on this boundary thing. When wife is or is not with the kids she is with OM - bounders you say ?????? No comunication with her "my boundary "
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don't punish your Ds for your W's bad behavior.
To elaborate, there is never a good exchange with D8 ever. I do not pull her from her mother’s arms I try and convince her she will see mom in just a few days. W prolongs the event with the good by a million times I love you a million times. The more w hangs around and says I love you the harder it is for me connect with D8. D8 has actually stood outside refusing to come into the house, or sits at the bottom of the stairs for a while. She eventually worms up and we have a big hug, wipe the tears and on with our fun filled days we have with each other. D5 is a champ, she will tell me how d8 is feeling and how we can console her..funny.
MrBond I will take the .02 any time. Thanks for the qustions I can ask myself
