I know what you mean about feeling resigned. We can say the right things, tell her we agree with her and want her to be happy. We can even tell our W's that we're not sure that we're in love with them anymore and actually mean it. I know that I do. I don't like the person that my W has become and I understand that she didn't like who I had become.
I was never ready to throw in the towel on our M. She is. So is yours. When does it become something not worth fighting for? Our W's have reached that point. Even though I'm not in love with her right now, I haven't got to the point of thinking it's not worth trying. For her, for me, for the kids.
But, like Coach points out in the Stockdale Paradox, we have to accept the sitch as is. We still have hope and, for me, I can't come to truly agree that we would all be better off going our separate ways.
I didn't mean to get so long winded.
I understand feeling down and I understand why you felt down even though there was no new information. I get it.
This isn't easy even when we finally do things the "right" way. Expect to feel down from time to time and realize it is normal. Then, get back to business.
