i can put a little more detail here bc that entry was done on an iphone. impossible to type. when i outed the A, i did so by calling the OMW as well as exchanging >10 emails w/ her. she gave me a whole bunch of details. talk about 2 f'd up individuals bc apparently in his phone records are numerous repeat numbers from tons of women (he's had her locked out of the acct until this past Monday). while he was wooing my W he was also involved w/ another woman, calling each 6-7x/day. he has done this many times. they have 4 kids yet she stays. ??
she thanked me bc I "was the first husband to ever come forward." one time before they were married, he slept w/ another woman. in response? she slept w/ someone else. this loser was raging w/ jealousy afterward back then.
yest, the OM left me a voicemail asking me to stay away from his wife (no more emails, etc) bc i am sure he's afraid OMW would try to sleep w/ me? huh? she has a track record. and for all i know he's done this before w/ her retaliating. ha.
so i texted him bc i refuse to speak over phone w/ him. i said stay away from my wife, no contact. he said same. i stay away from his wife. didn't believe him. i would have been a fool to.
well after i arrived home late from work, had the sit down with W where we laid out options: divorce vs separation vs full reconciliation/no contact/transparency. i even showed her the retrouvaille website and she actually listened. she is nowhere near ready bc she still hasn't admitted anything.
she had more or less had stated that she was going to file in AM unless we talked. after we talked though, she agreed to hold off on filing. we talked, it was calm. i try not to reason with her nor try to understand her logic bc it is f-ing torturous and downright schizo. those PEA's again. love can be a terrible thing. we ended our discussion last night by agreeing to talk more in am to come up with final decision.
then went to bed. i started thinking about what the W had said. there was something to the effect that she did what she did w/ OM in order to drive me away, more or less bc ILYBNILWY. huh? like i said above, schizo. i know she was in love w/ him. duh. i knew she would contact him. duh. so i sent an email earlier this am to OMW to try and get phone records for obvious reasons just in case.
he apparently found out (i don't know if she told him bc i sent it to her acct) and went apeshot. sent text saying i abrogated our "deal." yeah right. like i ever expected she or he to do that. i wanted the phone records. i tell him, that's it. leave me alone. i mean it. whether she contacts him or not, and i would expect that she would bc i am not that dumb (sometimes), i have had enough of the soap opera or bad tv movie starring Dean Cain and Shannon Dougherty on Lifetime or We. by no means did i expect anything else. these are 3 individuals w/ problems.
so we r done or so i think. the OM texts me again. he must be attracted to me or something. he tells me the OMW has emailed a response. she is livid. she provides me w/ detail. they met twice, had sex, she paid for room w/ my f-ing $, has said ILY whereas he never did (right), she called him yest at his new job back home in FL which he just started yest after working the past 6 months in NY state (how he hooked up with her and others) and he told her that's it. it's over. i don't actually believe that but maybe sort of bc that is what he does. use em and lose em. his track record says he does not care. thank God we are NOT going to FL. could not predict what would happen.
talking to her last night, when i mentioned him especially how he was leading other women on she took a real heavy interest. typical. she could not believe her romeo was this loser that he really is. i strung her along w/ multiple names of all these chicks the OMW told me about in the past year. loving it. let the reality hit her.
she is trying to have it both ways. keep that romeo and keep me around. i say f the W, f the OM! had it. really have. i am now on dangerous ground bc i can feel contempt creeping up on me. dangerous. especially if u read Penny Tupy's Overcoming Infidelity. need Protection now. i know it. have to hurry up and find place asap.
