Actually if you go to the survivinginfidelity.com website, you'll see a number of couples that have healed using techniques similar to DB.
Right now it seems like you've spent alot of time going dark, GAL, etc. But the core reason she left was because she didn't trust you. Did you ever go to the C to talk about the EA and how you can get your W to trust you again? That's what seems to be the core issue.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.