Since our situations are similar, I thought I'd chime in on how I try to handle things. As everyone else said, keep your thoughts to yourself. AVOID R TALK. If he needs to talk to you about his personal issues, keep the conversations focused on him. Not on what YOU would do, not what YOU think about it, but just listen to him. If he ASKS your opinion, then be honest but brief. He doesn't want you as his wife so don't meet his needs as his wife. Be respectful, courteous, kind etc, but he is NOT your confidante right now.
If my H had asked about how an IC appt went, my response would be "good". If he asks more, I may say an additional "it helps me think". But still brief. Then I may end up saying something to get the conversation off of me. But honestly, that rarely happens since my H doesn't ever ask in depth questions like that.
Trying to disentangle ourselves from our H is tricky since they seem to have let go, and yet are still attached. Concentrate on you and keep your thoughts to yourself. As long as OW is in the picture, he's still firmly in replay.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
