To hurtinhartford and all and sundry:
What on earth is a 2X4?

and maybe you have a point about professional deformation: you're used to applying principles of engineering to a problem, taking a global view and getting a solution. But this is one problem that doesn't work like that.

Detaching, TimeHeals, is a very nice idea. IDEA.

NCU

Me: 46
H:42
Together for 18 yrs, married 14.
3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7.
Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation.
Separated 08/2010