Oxymoron, I agree totally. I've made more of an effort myself, changed my wardrobe a little, started to wear a little makeup and jewellery and perfume mre often.I've had my hair highlited and cut and I've lost weight. And I've realized how little time I took for myself in the past. I've even started to use Ilotion all over my body and have invested in new underwear. No-one sees it but me, but I feel better for it. I actually went into a beauty shop to enquire after anti-ageing creams for my face. Things my H has done and said have made me feel about 100. The beatuician told me I didn't need them, that my skin was just very dry, very tired and in need of pampering. She said it was all in my head! I could have hugged her.
All that to say I realize it's time to take care of myself and rediscover the woman who's been hiding under my skin for years.I notice that my efforts are getting some results, I get a few comments and turn a few heads. I'm not going to turn into a man-eating tigress(not just yet), but I feel much better.
I've got two daughters and a son. I don't want my daughters to grow up with the idea that you hit 40 something, have reached the end of your reproductive career and that's it, goodbye and thanks. They need to see me looking nice and bouncing back. And all three notice straight away when I put on mascara, perfume or wear a new item of clothing. They want mum in full war pâint and ready to do battle. Like you say, the first steps in a new world for us. NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010