I get that same feeling, that she's looking for safety. How can I give her that safety, while simultaneously allowing her to feel the consequences of her actions? My "nice guy" tendancies want to rescue her, but I'm making an effort to break away from all that.
My friends have all treated her with very much respect, so she has no real reason to assume they'll run her down, other than her own guilt.
Are you responsible for how she feels? Codependent.
