Yesterday my s 8yrs put his mum on the spot with a question he asked - but he said in such a way as if I was asking. It was about her bit of fluff staying over night all the time - and she told him that he did.
It made her angry.
So today she filed for D. She doesn't know how we will split the kids, our home, ect... Just acted on a spur of the moment thing.
She told me tonight about the filing, and was still in an angry mood.
My reply was just 'ok, I am fine with that' in a calm manner.
She stated that as I had took off my wedding ring, was going on Single parent holidays with my boys and have had contact with another woman that it wasn't worth going on and dragging it out.
I told her that her moving out, taking 2/3rds of the stuff, setting up a new home and living with her boyfriend, had already indicated her intentions of separation between us.
I told her that I have never asked her to come back. I told her that I have never started a talk about us . I told her that I did not want her to come back.
She was very quiet.
She then spent 5 mins being aggressive and angry with a few choice expletives.
I calmly let go of the rope, but where required I corrected her on a few points. I did not argue. She swore - I did not. She threatened - I did not.
She accused me of manipulating her family and the children.
I asked how she was going to separate us financially - she did not know. I asked how were we going to share the boys - she did not know.
She dangled a carrot by saying That me taking off my ring meant that it was over. I told Her that my ring signified my vows to her that had been broken by her - there was no reason to wear it.
Basically she has taken a step in anger- and I did not react as she planned - I agreed that it might be for the best.
To me it felt like a DB 'last resort technique' from her. She looked for a reaction she did not get and she was very quiet and deflated when I left.
What are other peoples experiences from this point?
Do couples really recover from this point?
What should I now look for? Will she try to be more angry and assertive, or will she pull back for a while?
Regards, Gyn.
Last edited by Gynandtonix; 09/08/1008:08 PM. Reason: Extra stuff
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