Great Advice. In fact, Stop thinking about it all together.
This is a very important time. There is alot to learn. There is alot to accomplish. There is alot of work involved in showing your wife you are the man for the job. If noone else is going to be so brazen to tell out right, then I will.
Get your head screwed on straight. ASAP.
You are all over the place. In one post you are talking retroville, in another your lawyer is advising you on how to file for a divorce you don't want. You have good evenings then a bad mornings. You post on someone else's thread don't believe what they say. But in your own you are stomaching all the blame your wife puts on you. All happy online when a carrot is dangled before you but then you break down and cry in front of her.
You are like a see-saw. You are depressed and confused.
This isn't rocket science and it doesn't take much luck either.
It's called a separation. It is a time for separating yourselves. Time for yourself. Time to think. Time to find yourself. Time to figure out what you want from life and come up with a logical plan on how to obtain it. Crying in front of her. Hypothetically planning on what the court will award for alimony. Relying on a third party retreat to convince your wife you are good enough are not good first steps in the separation process.
Maybe your wife is weird but I have yet to meet a woman who is attracted to needy, emotional, co-dependent men who cannot stand on their own with pride and confidence and self-respect. And who they can't seem to get a break from.
Typically people flee from others like that.
Take a break from the situation, John. To borrow from Rob and Gucci, this is not a time to be mean and vindicitive and stubborn, instead it is a time where you are unsure what you want or if being married is really the right thing for you now. Explore other possibilities. Other adventures. Think about other things than another person for awhile.
Do not be the person that needs to come on here and be told everything will be alright and have their hand held through the entire ordeal. Because if your wife does not find men who need to be told everything is going to be OK and coddled when things are not going their way the type of man she wants to walk next to, then you are going to be walking along without her.
