If he's extremely lucky, he found this site and is lurking away soaking up the knowledge. If so, and if he's also wise, he's applying the tenets of db with abound. All the things you say you need right now are straight from the LBS handbook (Which by the way is a GENIUS idea for a book!).
*You want him to detach and give you space. (No Pursuit) *You want him to take care of his problems and failings (180's) *You want him to be kind, but not at all romantic *You want him to develop some interests (GAL) *You are not attracted to him (make yourself attractive) *You haven't said as much, but I'll bet you'd even respect a little leadership on his part. *You want him to let go, because you have and it hurts you to think you are hurting him. *You don't want to discuss the R in the least.
Did I miss any? These are the pearls of wisdom that we swine are trying to uncover in the muck. If he's out there, maybe he's got the upper hand because he's learned them from you directly. I know that it's sunk home to me 2nd hand.
Nope I'm pretty sure you got them all. And to think I almost started to question if I was a true WAW. Guess so? Well I'm a WAW who hasn't started walking yet. How about that?
As for him lurking, he might be. I will admit that I actually had him read some things on here. And I did share some of my post (it was on a day when he said I wasn't trying and I just needed to show him every resource I was using). So if he goes upstairs and reads my post or lurks on others then he will be making his changes based on his wants and not me telling him what to do. And that is a huge plus.
Smooches, Doodi
"I feel like Rocky in the fifteenth round, beaten beyond recognition, when I realize, the only person I've been fighting for is...myself."
