My wife introduced the OM to my children this week

[MrBond]

I think you may be taking the "no contact" thing a little too far. I mean when you hang back and duck out when you follow your daughters, it sounds like you're running away and hiding. You're not showing confidence. If you really think you're the better man than the OM, you need to act like it.

You don't necessarily need to talk to your W, but it also sounds as if you haven't put your foot down in terms of any boundaries.

When you run out like that, or physically pull your D away from your W, you're not showing compassion to your D. True your W may be an absolute b*tch right now, but don't punish your Ds for your W's bad behavior.

Just my .02.