Letting Go and setting them free

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Actually, they rarely let go of it and if they do not process it thoroughly when they are children

Again, what does that mean?

I'll tell you why I ask: for over a decade, many states dictated that first responders be debriefed by grief counselors who would ask them to go over their experiences in the weeks following especially truamatic events.

It was an unspoken and untested assumption that this helped.

When studies were finally undertaken (within the last 8 years), it was discovered that this only helped a minority of these responders, and it actually prolonged grief and PTS for the majority (the control groups were from states where no such counseling was required).

Your children learn part of their coping skills from watching you and how you handle things. And if they ask, they learn from listening to how you handle things. Something to think about.