Also i agree with citygirl that comparing our grief to genocide is kinda crass.
Why? Can't we learn from genocide survivors? Or are we too special?
One of the most moving things I ever read was from a holocaust survivor describing the moments of joy she managed to have in Auschwitz. Her mom was sent to the showers and ovens on the first day, but she survived by finding joy and counting her blessings even there.
After the liberation, she dedicated her life to psychology and helping other people who could not let go of their grief. Inspiring woman.
I was divorced in my 20's. I went through all the same trauma that i am going through now and thought my life was over and ruined. 2 years later i was in a new R and having a great time with no thought to how things might have been with my EX.
The emotional stress we are feeling is temp for most of us. I came from a violent and war torn country and have seen the damage and emotional scars left behind. THEY ARE NOT THE SAME.
Thats all I am saying. Most people here will either get things back together or move on. In a couple of years they will be just as happy as they perceive they were in their M.
Much as it doesn't seem so now ( for me too ). It is temporary
