So you guys do NOT live together, he won't share any $ with you, and hasn't really touched on getting everything ready for you to move with him overseas?
Your story about the pic you sent him made me want to cry. That was very mean of him.
You are in a limbo right now, even if nothing official has been done. That is not a fun place to be.
What do YOU want? Have you talked to him about what YOU want? You are his wife and deserve some answers instead of him postin gon his wall on facebook about his day and not calling you.