WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

Hurtinhartford,
Watch out for the rock-climbing! My H is a rock-climbing instructor, and the adult class at least seems to be full of 40-somethings on the look-out for company... Only joking, but you made me smile. The OW in my case was/is a very willing and enthusiastic pupil.

I'm trying to make a life for myself, but I'm a little hemmed in by kids and work. I love my kids and am very glad to have them, I would have sunk without trace otherwise. I have to keep my head high for them. However,I have little non-mum and non-work time.

My H is blowing hot and cold (well, lukewarm). He'll come for the kids or meet me in town for a handover, and be cold and irritable. Then he'll ring and speak about this and that, and say "bisous" (kisses) at the end of the conversation. When we were a couple, he was often terse to me on the phone, always on the way out the door, busy etc. I didn't get kisses too often. I don't understand his mood swings. So I'm pleasant, but I try to be the one to end the conversation, or let him leave a message. He can change from cold to warm in the space of 10 minutes.

I'm trying to take an interest in my new place of work, new colleagues.I've been like a zombie since school started (he left 3/4 days before). I've got quite a few nice-ish male colleagues 'round my age and I'm determined to "test" (innocently) what's left of my appeal on them. I've never been a flirt, but maybe that's what a u-turn would be for me...

You said you were taking acting classes . How're they going? Also, I have to congratulate you on the weight loss. I've also lost weight, I'm quite proud of myself. only those who've had a weight problem know how it affects self-esteem and how hard it is to lose!So pat yourself on the back.

She'll have to contact you sometime - you're still married. Give her time. Easy for me to say to you, but I'm very impatient myself.
NCU