First of all, who calls at that time of morning to discuss rent/house money? Secondly, I am so proud of you for ignoring her and not sending a TM or worse...calling her back. You've just begun.
You do not respond. You're dark. If she catches you somewhere and confronts you, you tell her you've been thinking what would be best. But here's the thing...you need to get all credit cards without your name on hers or her name on yours! You need to start a private bank account that she can't touch. This is protecting yourself. Don't think for a second she wouldn't wipe you out.
If she contributes to the joint accounts, then figure up what's hers and leave it. Do what you think is fair/right. As a former WAW, I think it would be a huge mistake to support her with anything. The more she can get from you or the more you pay what once was her part.....then the less likely she'll come back. Let her turn to lover-boy for her needs....and see how long the romance lasts then.
Stay off the TM & emails. I know you can withstand the temptation. Just ask yourself what or how would you handle it if she was deceased. Couldn't call her then, could ya?
Hi Sandi,
I was pretty tired this morning. I didn't realize you posted twice and I thought it was CD yelling at me about the dogs. The dogs were just a thought.
I'm not stupid, I know better than to not listen to your advice. You of all would know this best.
She makes more than me, but that is only because of the bonus she gets from her company for me carrying Health Insurance and quarterly bonuses IF they reach their goals. We, together, can afford our home, neither of would live very well if we had it on our own without some type of help. For some reason she thinks she's doing ME a favor by letting me live at our house.
She's living free and clear of responsibility right now. She wants to do whatever she wants and she doesn't see the big picture of what is involved. However, it doesn't really matter right now, because I'm the one that's seeing reality and getting crapped on.
In a nutshell, she's trying to manipulate. Just like you said she would.
We do not have any joint Credit Cards together. Only our account and the house really. I guess I could leave half of the money for Mortgage in there and just pay all utilities out of my other account. She has truck payment and her credit card; I have my CC. However, she's strange...she buys groceries and misc stuff out of our joint, which indicates to me when she has to pay for her insurance she will feel the pinch. But Lover Boy can take care of her then I guess.
