I am not comparing my marriage ending to anything. I was participating in a general conversation about ALL marriages ending and the process the LBS goes through.
Nobody is looking back - we are sharing what we did right, wrong, obstacles we faced, things that impeded us from a rapid heal and a host of other things that in one fashion or another the majority of forum members have experienced.
Every can and will move on - it's either that or die. Nobody is debating that. There is no time frame though, it's individual and more is not less and less is not more.
One can learn all the tools on how to move on and flourish but everybody works on a different learning curve to actually implement them and make them work.
So to say it's "too long" is really just adding pressure to an already pressure filled situation.
You had a very short marriage with no children. I had a much longer marriage than you and I am a decade younger than you are. Should I declare things are naturally "easier" for you simply because your marriage was short lived? That would be crappy of me, no?
