We are talking about grief. You want to compare your marriage ending to somebody watching their wives and daughters being raped and murdered? To not knowing what happened to their extended family?
Seriously. If you keep looking back and focusing on the negative feelings instead of accepting the past as the teaching gift it can be, and then counting your blessings and then making plans for your own future, then you will stay stuck.
If genocide survivors can move on, then so can anybody.
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A divorce involving children is never final. You can never look back on it because it insinuates itself into your present and future. You can detach for yourself, but letting go of the pain of your children is much more difficult. Every time they cry, the pain is rekindled. I'm not saying that one shouldn't try to move past that, but it's not as easy as dealing with your own pain.
