I tried to start a thread recently but it turns out "there was a problem with this post" so I am trying again...trying again to post and trying again to put the ssm in the past.
I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years and married for 15. We have 2 children (son 16, daughter 12).
I am the LD spouse but I have never WANTED a sexless or sex starved marriage. Basically, I feel like my hd husband's need for sex combined with a very self-centered view of life has driven me away from him. There has been some discussion on this site about ld partners having difficulty engaging because of anger and resentment, and I believe that is true in my case. I am posting here hoping to get some suggestions about how to work through those issues so that I can re-engage with my husband, and I would also appreciate some help in learning how I can talk to my hd spouse in a way that will help him understand that this is a psychological and emotional problem, not that I just don't want sex.
