I never disagreed one needs to shift their perspective.

I said that there is no time frame that is "correct" when there are outstanding obstacles present that are not quickly "fixed".

Posting stats that make somebody feel like an ass because they don't fit in the 6-24 month time frame of recovery genocide victims have doesn't help.

My H told me after my dad died I had 3 months to get over it. Is that what "most" folks get or should it not take that long?