LL = Love Languages from the book "The Five Love Langauges" by Gary Chapman. You can add it to your list of things to do along with all the homework that cadet gave you.
As far as the conversation with your WH, I hope it made you feel better because it is not going to do anything as far as moving you closer together, or scaring him out of his crisis. That is not going to work. If anything it will push him further away.
Please try to detach from him and limit your contact.
