If you live in a state w/such restrictive divorce laws it is rather astounding to me the attny you spoke with did not paint you and scenarios for a "long term marriage" (often called a vintage marriage via the court system).
Go find ImprovedRomeo in the "surviving the big D" folder. His W left him three times over the course of 4 yrs and this last time it's for good. Sadly for him their marriage did reach the 10 year mark and now he will experience total financial devastation as a "long term marriage" is ending. She didn't participate in a 10 yr marriage but she is getting ALL the perks of one. Don't let that happen to you.
Be smart, be tough, learn and understand the laws, protect yourself and your child and stop allowing her to control it all.
