No not before. Ihave not detailed what led to him leaving, but I'm pretty clear on what made him leave in the first place - it was a reacton to me. So was getting and OW and all the anger, I suppose.
Was there something different about the incident before he left?
I don't know, but it seems you are taking his word for it about when the affair began. My H was also emotionally abusive throughout the marriage, and when he emailed me telling me not to come to Europe to vacation with him as planned, he blamed it all on me. He didn't say he wanted a divorce. He thought we should take some time apart. He expected I would be waiting at home when he returned. (I was gone.) Turns out he was pursuing another woman the whole time. He doesn't know that I know.
