Hey AM, I've missed you. Thought maybe you'd finally convinced her that sex was the next best thing to sliced bread, but it sounds instead like your marriage is toast. Sorry, couldn't resist the pun.
Anyhoo, as I've said (and you've said) before, are we married to the same woman? Especially the adopting the same religious beliefs, being less chauvinistic (when our friends/colleagues say we're already more sensitive than we need to be). My wife could care less if I talk to her for 15 minutes a day, because I do that whenever I can, and usually enjoy it.
But what bugs me is the chauvinistic thing, and the religious/philosophy thing. First of all, I (and you, apparently), already are kind and sensitive. So I occasionally slip and raise my eyebrows at a Victoria's Secret commercial. It proves, not that I'm a chauvinist, but that I'm friggin' alive and male. What her insistence in this matter has gotten her is a husband who catches her every time she makes an antimale comment, turns it around and calls her a sexist. So she's kind of quieted down on that issue. If you need a few links to websites that talk about the disenfranchisement of the male, let me know.
About the religio/philosophy thing, what my wife has told me is that she really wants me to find a spiritual base. I'm Jewish, but I don't practice. I think she really wants me to be what she is, which is Buddhist. I could actually be both at the same time. There is nothing offensive about Buddhism, and it certainly has its attractions. I have attended some events at the Buddhist temple with her, and I think she really appreciates that. But I hear you when you complain about the fact that your W says she's more "enlightened" than you. My W has told me that. I'd like to hear Corri's view on it. Sometimes I want to say, "oh enlightened one, bite me!" But I don't.
Sorry to hear that you are talking about splitting. You obviously love her a lot, and let me tell you, breaking up a family is generally not worth it, unless there's abuse of some sort going on. I'm certainly not at that point in this marriage.
