I am pretty sure most of us told you to focus on yourself and your child, protect your assets, and let her go if that's what your wife wants. Don't argue with her about it.
You haven't done that. Trying to pull her back is the only option you are willing to try from what I can see.
You've made some progress on not doing everything else she wants when she wants it, but that's it from what I have seen on this thread.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 09/08/1003:14 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Why are you arguing about options that are available? You said yourself you didn't even know there were options by asking me to provide you with examples.
I provided you with an example and you said "well, sounds the same to me" You are married to a woman who has cheated on you MULTIPLE times and a separation agreement guarantees her transgressions will be eliminated from the proceedings.
You pick and choose the advice and alternate ideas based on what you like to hear. Get the separation but don't be *all* that surprised once it's in place and she has what she wants she dumps you for good.
Oh puleeze. She's had affairs, she's controlling, and she can't trust him? She can't trust him not to take the abuse or respond in a passive-aggressive manner.
She's gaslighting him
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I am pretty sure most of us told you to focus on yourself and your child, protect your assets, and let her go if that's what your wife wants. Don't argue with her about it.
You haven't done that. Trying to pull her back is the only option you are willing to try from what I can see.
That is a fair statement. I don't want to fight this anymore, she is going to do what she is going to do. I'm just trying to save us money. I'm not fighting this anymore. We don't have the cash to outlay for the legal separation right now... to the tune of $1500-2500. We're both stressing about that especially when she has no job and won't get one because she doesn't know what the custody arrangement would be, so she doesn't know her hours she can work. All of this has tapped out our savings and we are going paycheck to paycheck now.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
We're both stressing about that especially when she has no job and won't get one because she doesn't know what the custody arrangement would be, so she doesn't know her hours she can work. All of this has tapped out our savings and we are going paycheck to paycheck now.
This is BS. What is she going to do when you divorce? Is she out looking for another man to take care of her? How is she going to be single with no job?
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She thinks that I would abuse money or hold money over her head and there would be nothing she could do about it.
Dude, you are being gaslighted. You work, so the money--excluding child supoort--is yours. You could always file for divorce yourself. She needs to get a danged job.
When are you going to stop falling for this crap?
Tell her to get a job so she can pay for her lawyer, and you will pay for yours. And she can find and pay for her own place, etc. Time for both of you to grow up.
End of discussion. Big Girl panties for her from now on. John will not be manipulated so easily because he is no longer going to listen to his danged ego.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 09/08/1003:25 PM.
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Sorry PMA. I'm really just trying to understand all my options.