Not really piecing and trying not to jinx it, but

[Freckle6]

I think it just really goes to show that isn't really anything a LBS can do to make their S see the light and work on the M. DBing gives you something to focus on and control when everything else is out of control in your life and gives you a blueprint on how to take the high road with dignity and not do things that will further damage the R.

After 12 years together I got the ILYBINILWY and he had no interest in "trying" and didn't think it was possible to get those feelings back if they had gone. Fast forward 5 years to where I only spoke to him when absolutely necessary for years and I was definitely not doing anything to "win him back". Then suddenly he's feeling that bond again enough to want to be with me without any action on my part?

It was truly a fog and he's said as much to me about how he freaked out inside when I was pregnant and after the baby was born. So, it wasn't a MLC, but still an internal crisis on his part.

I can kind of understand the feelings because shortly after my son was born (like the first couple months) I kept thinking how my life was now completely different and that I couldn't hang out in a bar anymore on weekends. I hadn't been to a bar in years because I kind of outgrew all that 10 years before! But now after this momentous change I felt panicked at the idea that I couldn't do this even if I wanted to (which I still really didn't even want to...). Fortunately those crazy postpartum hormones settled down quickly and my brain returned to earth, but I guess my H's didn't until recently. It'd be interesting to see hormones or that science-y stuff studied and see if there is a correlation there.