Quote: Remember that it is not your "high" sex drive that is destroying your marriage. It is your spouse's lack of drive.
I have to take issue with this statement. This way of thinking is not constructive. It's the old "I'm right, but I'm still miserable" thinking mentioned in SSM. Okay, so we're HD and they are LD. What's destroying the marriage is the disparity, the sexual incompatibility.
There was another post on this board yesterday where the poster described himself as "HD, or, more like Normal Drive." (I'm paraphrasing). So this guy thinks his LD wife is abnormal. Maybe we all think/thought that way. It's not helpful. I'm sure a lot of the LDs think they're normal and we're abnormal. One thing I've tried to learn about all this is: it's all relative. Relative to my W, I am HD. Relative to an 18-year-old guy in a co-ed dorm, I'm LD. My wife is LD relative to me. Relative to some of her aunts, she is HD.
You get my point? If we're going to critical, let's be critical in a constructive way. If we're the ones who always seem to be making the compromises, and they aren't, let's address non-judgmental ways to address that and make them aware of it.
