WAW Wants to Be Alone

[TimeHeals]

Should I ask her how much for her rent and just plan around it?

No. You should split up your accounts so she doesn't have access to the marital monies, and she can pay for her own rent without you helping.

Dropping the rope means dropping the rope. Drop it and go dark, Buddy. You have to get past the angry stage. Going dark is for that, but you can't go dark until you disentangle your finances a bit and protect yourself. You are protecting yourself because that is always the right thing to do.