my 1st post - H "done" w/marriage need help

[anniemc]

thanks keeter - I'm a strong, motivated person with a career and life of my own. That's what's helping me through this (I think about just how difficult it would be if I were home with the kids all day thinking about all this and mulling it over 100 different ways). I've always been independent, but believe that at one point that worked against my R because my H felt like I didn't "need him" anymore. As I told him as recently as a few months ago (before my "awakening and finding Michelle's book), while I was always independent, it always came down to the fact that everything was going to be ok (whatever it was we were working through) because I got to come home to him. That's what got me through every day. I have always believed that "things happen for a reason" - but it's just so incredibly hard to continue to beleive that when I have no control over any of this.