I know ris had an excellent point. I am doing things for the end result and not for myself. But I guess most of us start out that way and slowly transition (if our head is clear) into doing GAL for ourselves. I went rock climbing yesterday, my first time and loved it, but it is horrid on my manicure ;-)
In regard to my affair, as I look back there where several reasons why it happened. I suppose the primary reason was that I had low self esteem. I was overweight and recently overlooked for a promotion. The lady was attractive and I could tell that she was interested in me (She was my translator for two weeks). So the excitement of the challenge and something new that boosted my ego, which was saging hooribly. Also, I was traveling about 65% of the time and my W was studying for her nursing degree it seemed like 120% of her time. So we sort of drifted apart, but no marital problems then.
I suppose your H may have the same issue with you making more $$. Maybe his self esteem needs boosting, but now I am mind reading. I know my W's deal breaker was my A because that is when our marriage began to unravel. Mostly due to my paranoia.
I have already accepted the fact that my W is dating and have decided that it is not a deal breaker since I opened Pandoria's box. But then again I am not even at the steps of the chapel to even worry about that. I have been totally dark since I sent the email regarding her mail last Friday and I plan not to acknowledge her b-day. If she really wants me out of her life then I have to accept that plus it helps me with detaching.
