Then perhaps begin to bring closure to some of these open wounds
Why would you want to talk to your MLC H about closure of YOUR open wounds? I mean seriously IB -why? I would be very careful here. In my experience my W did not care to hear about what I was going through. Usually, they really cannot understand it. They are so tied up in their internal turmoil that they do not have the capacity to understand what you are going through. Even if they did....sometime these type of conversation can come across as needy. I would suggest that you really think long and hard about having this convo with your H. Now your IC...that is another story. Remember, these are YOUR issues/demons to face. Not your H.
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Some will never close because of the magnitude of the devastation - but some may close enough to allow me to go from dark to dim
No they will not close if YOU do not want them to. You could hold on to them for another 20 years. IB - these wounds that you reference...are they your own childhod issues or the issues that your H is putting you through right now?
Another question...why are considering going dim? Just for the kids? OR is that you feel like you can "show" your husband your changes?
Yes...your MLC has a different sense of reality right now. Does that change yours though?
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
